The high school years are probably the most formative years of every teenager’s existence.
I know they definitely were for me. I learned some incredibly important lessons in high school that I know I will remember for the rest of my life, and I want to share a few of them with you.
Don’t look for a relationship.
I know of two couples who were in a relationship in high school and ended up getting married. The rest of the people that I know who got in a relationship in high school ended up regretting it later on–because most of the time, it ended in tears and unnecessary heartache. Chances are, neither you nor your friends are going to find your soulmate in high school. Take the time to find yourself instead.
A good reputation is invaluable.
A good reputation lasts so much longer than being popular does. The popular people come and go, but having a good reputation is literally priceless. It determines so many things about both your friendships and your future. Your parents probably told you this already, but as someone just out of high school, I can definitely say that they were right. When you have a good reputation, people will genuinely respect you and trust you as someone they can count on and confide in.
People will judge. You don’t have to care.
How cliche this sounds. But honestly, no matter what you do or say, someone will love you for it and someone will hate you. People’s opinions vary, and trying to cater to opinion alone will get you nowhere. So be you. Get up and make the first move. Don’t be scared to do what you love. To be blunt–those who judge don’t have their heads on straight, and their opinion cannot hurt you. Ignore them and move on with what you want to do.
Being yourself is SO IMPORTANT.
In high school, it is so easy to become intimidated by others and try to become someone you aren’t. However, others usually see through that facade easily, and soon label you as being fake or shallow. Like I said earlier–do what you want. Don’t hurt or annoy people in the process, but don’t be afraid to like what you want to like no matter if it’s popular. Say what you want to say without fear of being judged. Do the things you love to do, and always remember that the real you is who the right people will be attracted to anyway.
A beautiful personality is always preferred over a beautiful face.
I stressed so much about my appearance in high school, which probably wasn’t a bad thing in and of itself. However, I put looks over my personality and character. I soon learned that people don’t actually care that much about how you look. They care way WAY more about who you are on the inside and how you treat others. Someone with the face of a model but the personality of a grizzly bear won’t be spoken of highly in the end. However, someone who isn’t classified as “hot” or a “model” but with a fun personality and good character will often be preferred and well-liked in the end. Maybe not popular, but well-liked. And like I said before, reputation is more important than popularity anyway.
There were many, many more things that high school taught me. However, these are the most important, the ones that stood out to me and have made the most impact on how I think and live. High school is rough. It’s a time for lots of learning bumps and curves, but I’m glad that it was. Because I’ve also learned that often it is the roughest parts of our lives that give us the most value in the end.
I’m curious–what were some of the most important lessons you learned from being in school? Share them with me in the comment section down below!
♦ Xo ~ Kristel ♦